Onward and Sideways, Kicking and Screaming

[sage]

Jennifer --

gosh, you've got a lot going on...and I can relate to so much of what you're writing (based on past experience and when I'm in my "future fears" mode...)

So this last time, after he receives the postcard, HIDES IT, doesn't tell me about it, and plans (clearly with no thought to letting me know) to write her a letter, which is SO intensely personal (why not an e-mail?) then freaks out and yells at me - you guessed it - that he's been trying to focus on OUR rela and nothing had anything to do with her. Sound familiar? Just go back and look at my threads from May and June... it's all there.

But...just to clarify ... he DID tell you about the postcard, right? It's not like you snooped and found it? While I know you're reacting to the fact that it was a delayed response from him AND that you're hearing some of the "same old, same old" from him in regards to the friendship...if he did tell you about the postcard on his own, well, I'm going to give him a brownie point for that...yah, maybe it's a delayed point, or one that's still wrapped up in his crapola, but, he gets a nod nontheless. (And you get a nod and more!)

Let me try:

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I like it, so I'm repeating it. ***

Sage