Onward and Sideways, Kicking and Screaming

[Underdog]

p.s. I had a pretty tough lesson with jealousy and insecurity in my R before my marriage (with said guy I mentioned earlier). In my case, the adage of "don't date anyone better looking than you are" was a pretty good one for me LOL.

My guy was (and still is, actually) a really handsome man. So much so, that whenever we went out, women went out of their way to get him to notice them. This happened on our first date! He helped me deal with this by reacting in a very kind fashion (he is the quintessential Virginia gentleman) by telling them, "I'm flattered. But as you can see, I'm with a lovely woman with whom I am in love with. I'd appreciate it if you didn't approach me again." (Of course our first date he didn't say the love thing.)

I was really impressed that he would treat them with respect and in the same sentence, get them to see how their actions might be perceived by me.

But it REALLY bugged me when I wasn't with him--wondering if he was fending off their advances or not. I would sort of get myself into a tailspin and he would either reassure me that he had chosen me, or I would do or say something really stupid that sounded even more idiotic when I verbalized my insecurities.

I slowly began to realize that he was getting sick and tired of reassuring me. (But secretly I still wonder why women act this way? It was awful.)

This doesn't mean we should go out of our way to find unappealing men! A little easier to figure out why those insecurities are present.

You aren't alone!

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