To post a new thread go under the Sex Starved Marriage forum and click "Post Thread" write your story and click. That gives you your own space and others will check in and give thoughts. Sounds like there is a lot to confront here, not the least of which is that it sounds like you two are in effect, "separating" - so, I would look at "Divorce Busting" too - there are some specific strategies that might help. If you want to preserve the M I would suggest that you talk to your W ASAP and make at least an agreement to both live the same house and work on things. Maybe even table the sex for a few months. Also, call a DB coach who can give specific, goal oriented suggestions. I think you are at a pretty important crossroad at the moment.
