Believe me, virginwife I am with you. I am just 25 years old and sexless but I do not imagine a long life (33 years) with non existant or almost non existant sex from my husband. I do start to get "crazy". I took everything easy, had a very pleasant character, I am not demanding (my ideal romantic date can be pizza and a dvd movie at home plus sex of course),but now dear husband with endless rejections has made me short tempered. I get irritated with things I couldn't care less about few years ago...Well, to say I'm wounded to the core is a huge understatement. Thing is, I do feel identified with your case, because he is a good, wonderful man, and we can have good moments as friends...good provider, have traveled a lot, like best friends but not more... But...I do not need more male friends or a brother (I have a brother) I need a husband and lover. He is not gay, he is not a womanizer he is just not into having sex.... maybe a couple of times per year... did I forget to tell you that I have just married one year and two months ago?? And that I am slim, have a good figure and atractive?
I certainly will wait some years to see what happens (I married dear husband because I love him of course) but not forever. Some people do change but some do not (I guess most belong to the second group to my dismay).
By the way I am not a nympho. Just the idea of one nookie per year is not my idea of marriage...
And thus I certainly do not agree with the idea of an affair, well, i do not condone the act but i certainly understand it in this sad circumstances. Nobody's saint and with years of being without sex an affair is like an accident waiting to happen for sexless, desperate wives... lots of men look at me in a distinctive way and I only wonder how it would be... to have a normal relationship
