Honey, you don't sound unstable at all. You sound like a perfectly normal person having a perfectly normal reaction to a crazymaking situation.
I hope the counselor you have now is more supportive of YOU and does not take sides the way the other one did. If you were the only one who ever had homework, that sounde very lopsided.
It's time for you to get your feet on the ground, regardless of how your H reacts to you. I mean not just in the bedroom but in your whole life. Your situation has evolved into one where you are focused on him and his reactions to you (or lack of reaction) and this has eroded your self esteem. This happens to lots of people-- it's really one of the potential pitfalls of marriage (or a job or parenthood), where your sense of yourself comes from something OUTSIDE of you.
I do have some ideas (mostly books, really, which is where I find my salvation... ), but I'd like to hear more from you. I'm starting a thread for you below. That is where people mostly interact and tell their stories. The board is slow on the weekends.
