Thank you for posting this. I just joined today and I'm hoping to divorce proof my marriage. The issue you are asking about is a big problem in my relationship with my H. Add that to insecurities about the affair he had in the not-so-long-ago past and you have a pretty mad wife here. I have a high sex drive. During the affair he was having, my H did not seem to want anything to do with me intimately. Now, after the affair has ended, still he has no interest. We've talked openly about the problem and still no resolution at all in sight for either of us. I'll want to make love with him and he just says "I don't want it." and rolls over and falls asleep or pretends to. I'm 45 years old, in good shape physically and keep myself up. It isn't so much the sex for me, it is the closeness too. After being rejected every night this week I'm getting to the point of intense anger which is sparked by the hurt I feel at his "Not wanting it". It tends to make me wonder what I've done to deserve such treatment and it makes me wonder on many points of why he doesn't seem to want me or be attracted to me. It hurts like H*&^. I would be much more understanding of this situation if he would show some affection towards me instead of just blatantly rejecting me, but he doesn't. At this point I'm really wondering if our marriage can be saved at all. I've been working on all of my issues all through out his affair, and the issues we have in common as well to no avail. He works on the relationship only for a brief amount of time only to get me off his back or so it appears to me. Any help I can get, I'll gladly accept.
