Welcome, luvs. You're with people who understand. Sorry you have reason to be with us. I could have written many of the elements of your post. I'm also not married to the guy in question, and he also kind of sees that this is a problem, but so far, in three years, I haven't seen much improvement. All of the other stuff in our relationship is pretty much everything I have ever wanted in a man. Right now I'm trying to decide if I can just live without sex.
Michele's thread is usually where people introduce themselves. So please start a new thread below and no doubt others will enter in to the conversation.