I've been a HD W married to a LD M for 18 years. The first 10 years it was a big issue and we fought about it alot. After that, I just got used to it and was thankful we ML at all. It was OK, but very scripted. H has been treated for depression after we sep last spring. His meds brought on an increase in the passion and his level of desire. It's been amazing But now, unfortunately, the LD is back again, and I think it's worse. He said he used to at least feel h*rny at times, but the last month, not so much. I'm hoping it's something physical or a side effect of his meds. He said that he desires me and wants a healthy sex life.. that's a start. We have a lot to work out between us.. this is just one issue. But, it takes it's toll to be a woman who thinks their H isnt attracted to you. Especially when there are so many men around who feel differently, it's hard not to wonder whats wrong with my H... what's wrong with me? Also, when we were just ML a couple of times a month, I started to withdraw and deny my sexuality. I've decided now though, that it's OK for H to have his level of desire, but it's also OK for me to have needs. We might never ML as much as I'd like, but I'll still explore my sexuality and find ways to pleasure myself. I'll not let that part of who I am die just to keep peace in my M or because I feel guilty about my needs. Might take a lot of batteries, but so be it!
But now, unfortunately, the LD is back again, and I think it's worse. He said he used to at least feel h*rny at times, but the last month, not so much. I'm hoping it's something physical or a side effect of his meds. He said that he desires me and wants a healthy sex life.. that's a start. We have a lot to work out between us.. this is just one issue. But, it takes it's toll to be a woman who thinks their H isnt attracted to you. Especially when there are so many men around who feel differently, it's hard not to wonder whats wrong with my H... what's wrong with me? Also, when we were just ML a couple of times a month, I started to withdraw and deny my sexuality. I've decided now though, that it's OK for H to have his level of desire, but it's also OK for me to have needs. We might never ML as much as I'd like, but I'll still explore my sexuality and find ways to pleasure myself. I'll not let that part of who I am die just to keep peace in my M or because I feel guilty about my needs. Might take a lot of batteries, but so be it! 
