msm, welcome aboard this leaky boat! There is an active and supportive community that reads this board and believe me, you are NOT alone in your situation. There are several HD women who post here whose situation is very much like yours (me included-- except that I'm not married to the guy). There are also HD men who post, and a few LD women-- but no LD men that I can think of.

I suggest that you start a thread below and summarize or copy and paste your story. The board is pretty slow over the weekend, but Monday and following, you will get replies.

Some of the things you describe are soooo familiar to me (and will be to the others, too). For example, I was gone to a conference for a week earlier this year and every night when I talked to my bf on the phone, he told me how much he missed me. I even got home a day late because weather caused me to miss my flight. Even so, my first night home, he sat up and watched tv til 2 in the morning like he always does instead of coming to bed with me!

He's in therapy and I'm satisfied with the rest of the R, so I'm optimistic at this point. But we're not married, still have our own houses, no kids, finances not mixed. Others here have been married for 10-20-30 years, kids, sometimes only one spouse working so financially dependent on each other-- very different sitch from mine but I'm sure elements you will be able to relate to.

Even if our advice doesn't help your situation a whole lot, it just feels good to know you're not the only one going through this. And I don't know you, but I can promise you that IT'S NOT YOU. It knocks your feelings of womanliness for a loop when your primary partner seems to be able to take you or leave you physically (this is something that the LD women on the board seem not to be able to relate to, but the HD women do). I repeat: It's Not You.

So stick around.. and hang in there.