Hi Michele, I really, really need to read your book! Until I came across this website, I really thought that my problem was very unique. I have a very high sex drive and my husband has a very low one. We have sex about once a month, and only because I initiate it. We have discussed it, but we don't really get anywhere. It's not something he really wants to discuss. Although we lead really busy lives (we both have full time careers and we have 3 children). I am desperate to fix this situation. We love each other very much and love to be together, but my husband just isn't really interested in sex. What often happens when I try to initiate sex is that he will discreetly try to ignore what I am saying or doing. He just doesn't respond to what I am doing.
It has been this way since the beginning. On our honeymoon, I had planned to spend most of the time indoors thoroughly enjoying my husband. He wanted to go out and enjoy Cancun. We had sex about once (sometimes maybe twice) a week during the first four months of our marriage. Then, I got pregnant and the sex decreased and it has been decreasing ever since. I thought it was because of my changing body (it has changed quite a bit after 3 children), but even after a recent loss of almost 30 pounds, nothing has changed. If anything, it's worse still.
Well, there's my input. I can't wait to read this book! Good luck and blessings writing it.
