Have you told him how his lack of reaction to you affects you...makes you feel? I doubt he has any idea of how it truly makes you feel....unloved, unattractive, undesireable, lonely, unimportant etc.
My LDH is exactly the same way, and no he's not gay. I have literally had to spell it out for him, tell him bluntly how his sexual inattentavness affects me, physically and emotionally. I've explained that....for me, while I enjoy the physical interaction...I actually crave the emotional feel of that comes with it, without that emotional connection that comes with ML to him...I become sad, depressed, I feel lonely, and with that comes....feeling unattractive, undesireable.....unimportant.
Have you spelled this out for your LDH or have you simply told him (like all of us have) that you would like to have sex more frequently and would like him to pay more attention to you? If this is what you've done....it's a place to start but one thing I've learned over the last year of going through this is this......that is tooooooo vague. All that says is that you want more sex.....it doesn't communicate to him how important fulfilling your need actually is....but I think this is the place we've all started at
