I can really relate to getting more attention from other men than my own H. Even when we're out together and we're always holding hands I get long lingering looks and smiles from other men and H notices this...we even talk and laugh about it, but it does nothing to ignite any passion in him. I'm 46 and in very good shape. I'm a hair and makeup gal and like my clothes clingy, but not cheesy. It seems all the other guys notice, but not the one I'd like to have notice. The other day when I was changing to go out he walked past the bedroom door where I was standing clad only in a sexy matching bra/panty ensemble. I could tell he got an eyeful, but dang he never said a word or even stopped by to inspect. I can't help but think that any other man would have had me undressed in under 2 seconds flat! Some time later when we were out I did teasingly joke that only he could walk past a women in underwear...someone he could have anytime he wanted...and barely notice. He laughed and said oh he noticed alright and squeezed my hand and gave me a peck on the lips. I was kinda hoping at that point something might happen later that evening when we got home...but as always, to no avail. In a world full of so many people how do we end up so mismatched?
Like you I get alot of compliments about my appearance, but it doesn't prevent me from feeling unattractive and self conscious about myself. It doesn't even help when I remind myself of the reactions I get from other men, because the reaction that would mean most to me would be from my H.
I've thought about my H being gay, too. I've even asked him about it, but the response is always an adamant NO WAY!
I think we've just got ourselves LDH's and are going to have to find some way of improving the situation. I've been married for 26 yrs and altho I know he loves me very much, I've reached a point in my life where that alone is just not enough anymore. Hey...maybe I'm the one having the MLC? I don't know for sure, but this board is a good place to look into it.
Hang in there...as I always tell myself...no matter what happens...in the end I'll be okay...and so will you.
