Thanks so much for your warm and supportive welcomes. I appreciate it very much. I will take your advice and start my own thread in the SSM forum.
In the meantime tho, csw, when you said "Don't even begin to think that her "lesbianism" is anything more than a front." Did you mean to give the H the benefit of the doubt because she may very well be a lesbian, or did you mean the lesbian story may be a front? I'm sorry...I'm feeling scattered and confused so thing's aren't registering for me clearly at the moment.
In answer to you questions: Yes, H has always been LD, even in the 1st M. When he was going thru his divorce he used to tell me about how his 1st W made an issue about his LD and subsequently she had an affair. I don't think he's ever had his testosterone levels checked. The specialist he saw checked only for "organic" evidence that may have been responsible for his LD. That came up nil and the specialist then implied that maybe I was the problem. Jerk.
And btw, unbeknownst to the H I've been checking his cell phone usage for at least 3 months now...and zilch. He'll go for days at a time or more without using it and then usually when he does it's because he called me on the way home from work or calls ahead to order sushi for take-out on the way home. I check very regularily to stay on top of it. I've also been checking his wallet and bank accounts on-line to keep track of money flow. Nothing has been out of line. So I'm thinking either I've been way off base or whatever may have gone on previously has now ceased because of my interference.
I'll save the rest of my babbling for my thread. Thanks once again people for being there. It means so much having someone to talk to about this as I've been keeping it all to myself. No family members or friends have any iota of an idea what's been going on and I wanted to keep it that way until I'm 100% certain and satisfied one way or the other.
