Welcome to the fray from a former LDH who now can't get enough of his HD WAW.
You sound like you will fit in nicely with the crew here. They are always open minded and ready to support.
GEL will probably be the next to post here, knowing her. She will make you feel warm and fuzzy in no time. NOPkins is one of the straightest talking affair hating people you will ever "meet". He has helped me tremendously. I will give a distilled version of his advice, in case he is occupied today.
Read Shirley Glasser's "Not 'Just Friends'" in front of your H, and leave it where he can peruse at his leisure. Brace yourself, and better yourself however possible, to improve your self esteem. Check your H's cell records thouroughly. Don't blame yourself for your suspicions until you are completely sure they are false. Don't even begin to think that her "lesbianism" is anything more than a front.
Questions: Has your H always been LD? (pre 1st M?) if yes, Has your H had his testosterone levels checked?
Try not to confront your H with any more of your suspicions until you are sure of what you are saying. It will save a lot of grief to sit on your suspicions until they are facts, but be actively persuing the truth.
Take all advice and sift it through your own 8# filter. (especially mine )
Most importantly, start your own thread in the SSM forum. You will get more attention and advice there.
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