Honeypot, The arousal-sex issue certainly holds true for many men. There are millions of men who don't have random lusty thoughts until they are sufficiently stimulated physically. I know you wish this weren't so for your husband, but it may very well be the case. I totally understand that you want to feel his lust for you and I hope for both of your sakes, it happens that way occasionally. HAving said that, do yourself a favor. When you "have to work hard" stimulating him, remember, it's not about you, it's about his pattern of desire. He simply needs that physical stimulation. Although some men are willing to use testosterone supplements with great success, others are not. If your husband is not, you should become his "testosterone" and "give him a lift." So, the short answer is YES, men experience the need for arousal before desire too!
