Michele, In my situation my husband was great in the beginning, then after we were together about 6 months things started changing. I have been married for 8 months and more and more I feel like I am living in a private hell. It was good for me to see other women have the same problems, but its still frustrating that my husbands sex/imtimacy drive has taken a downward spiral. We were living in my parents house when it started and so did the arguing. I find a lot of fault with him and I do see him as weak, not as a man in a traditional sense. That was hard to say, but I do not see him as my lover only my room mate. We argue everyday and for me the intimacy issue is a big deal, my husband says I just cant live without sex like I am going to die. But inside I feel like I am already dead. I dread waking up knowing that nothing has changed. Its been a few weeks since we have made love and I think its pathetic that I cant remember the last time we did. I want so much to have the intimacy that I have been thinking about having an affair. I know its not right, but I feel as though I am left with no choice. I asked him today to check out your website in hopes of fixing our problem so maybe the hurt and shame will go away. I have been talking to my husband over a year about this and no change, over and over again day after day, I am giving this marriage one last try and then if it does not work out then I am going to call it quits. I cant live with feeling like this anymore, this is my second marriage, I am not getting any younger and do not want to waste any more time. Hopefully my husband loves me and wants our marriage to work that he will take things seriously and make and honest effort along with me. Rose
