HoneyPot wrote {{I realize the HDH's get validation from other women, as well, but not nearly to the same degree that the HDW's do--men being men, after all right!}}
HP, I only get validation from other women when I do some repairs for them, cook for them, or fulfill a request they have. I sometimes feel used, kind of like I was their errand boy. But maybe some women do give me validation. I just do not see the validation unless I have done something for them. My W even says friends and family use me.
How does this fit in "The sex starved wife theme?" Either I am getting the validation from my W and other women and I do not recognise it, or most women do not show it to me. Because I do not feel validated maybe I have trouble validating my W? Do I have an antenna deficit?
I see women showing validation to powerful men like power brokers, doctors, Robert Redford types, but not the repair man unless the woman has a problem. Too many women in my life need to have a "knight in shining armor" for them to be happy. I also see guys drooling over women like Julia Roberts because they "look or act hot"
To me the SSW thing starts with lack of feeling worthwhile, special and is more than the lack of sex with her H in many cases. Yes, having sex with the H would make you feel wanted, loved, and satisfy your horniness. Maybe teen boys can have sex with out the EC a special relation ship brings. I want both as I suspect you do too. BTW HP, I think your M has most of the things I stated I wanted so most of this does not apply to you or your M except the men feeling validated part. Some guys have antenna problems. Me included.
