Quote: SD, I agree with you, provided S is willing to engage in other than just IC in the LM. In a case where LM is strictly IC, ie. no oral, no toys, etc, the repertoire is so limited...
It's sad and, yes, problematic. There are plenty of problems out there without creating unnecessary ones. Sigh.
Quote: that without an erection there is little that is possible beyond cuddling and maybe a HJ without any lubricants (if you see it differently, please educate me).
There was an article on the smartmarriages.com website (which I can't find now because they don't have any decent search feature... ). It was a conference presentation by ??? Bill Doherty maybe? He mentioned speaking to a therapist friend of his, a woman whose husband had become totally impotent because of some physical problem (he could still have an orgasm, but no erection). The author was amazed that his friend reported that she and her H had a great sex life and were thrilled that they had the opportunity to discover what lies beyond the limited sex they had before. Lest you think they were doing anything wild, she was basically straddling and rubbing, which got them both the big O that they found to be way better than that from the old way.
It seems to me that many people focus on what they don't (or might not) have around sex when no matter how much you don't have, there are still infinite possibilities in what you do have. I think all sexual problems exist entirely in the brain. Except in cases of overcoming abuse, sexual problems all have to do with attitude and (lack of) imagination.
). It was a conference presentation by ??? Bill Doherty maybe? He mentioned speaking to a therapist friend of his, a woman whose husband had become totally impotent because of some physical problem (he could still have an orgasm, but no erection). The author was amazed that his friend reported that she and her H had a great sex life and were thrilled that they had the opportunity to discover what lies beyond the limited sex they had before. Lest you think they were doing anything wild, she was basically straddling and rubbing, which got them both the big O that they found to be way better than that from the old way.
