He doesn't have a problem getting an erection. I suspect that it is more resentment that he HAS to get one in order to proceed that precludes him from even trying.
So when he's not in the mood..meaning he has little desire right then..he knows that he is the main star of the event (this is his perception now folks)..so he refuses to participate.
I don't know why this is...but I haven't heard of too many (any?) LD men who are willing to offer a HJ in lieu of intercourse. It seems to be an all or nothing mentality. Perhaps because a man would feel even LESS manly to have to offer a HJ, whereas a woman would do it because she would feel 'normal' as a woman who occasionally has to offer something to make up for the widely-known disparity between male and female desire.
