HP, I think you and I could write the book, LOL ( but then it wouldn't be solution oriented, as we trade anecdotes).
Another thing that gets me is how easily turned on the higher desire men get...we've talked about this before, how an LD wife merely has to step into the room and her HDH is ready and willing. I know that anything remotely direct will have an adverse effect on my H's sexuality. My H will say all the right things when he sees I have made an effort to look attractive, but I know it's not a sensual experience for him, and that fills me with self-doubt.
