I feel we are put in a difficult place as women with lower desire husbands. We have to find a way to ask for what we want and need, and all the while be sensitive to our H's sense of manhood. My H has directly said to me, " Do you know how your pressure affects me as a man?" and all the while I am thinking, well you're the one putting me in this position. It doesn't make me feel particulaly feminine to view myself as a castrating female.
