Michele, One of the things I'd like to see addressed in the new book is how the necessity for an erection changes things. My husband would "just do" practically anything for me--except sex. The pressure to be the one who has to bring the tools, so to speak, would shut him down. He couldn't just show up with a minimal amount of desire and trust that eventually he'd get into it. "It" wasn't going to happen unless he first had a good amount of desire. Further, I think there were many times in which he COULD have gotten turned on by me (say, if I was trying to seduce him) but wouldn't allow himself to try for fear that he would fail. Or he wanted to avoid the feeling that he wasn't "man enough" for me.
Heck, I think the book should be called The LD Husband. LOL
But in all seriousness, I think the reason you seem to be getting so many husband-related responses is because women are (in GENERAL, fellas!) caretakers and nurturers. We want to love our husbands back to us..we are hesitant to ask for what we need...it was TORTURE for me to even bring up the topic in the first place. Perhaps the HD men come from a more "fix the problem" place when they are addressing their sex starved marriages. Drawing a boundary while stroking his ego has been a very delicate balance for me--and not one I've been particularly successful in pulling off. It's only been recently that I've started making more 'you da man' comments to him and he's eating it up! So I know that I have not done enough of this, previously.
