That statement was a generalization...my apologies to the men on this board who work so hard to understand their emotions and work on their marriages...your wives are indeed fortunate.
My H was never good at expressing his needs ( even when he was the higher desire spouse). As a result, I never really focused on his struggle or his pain---I was too focused on my own. Between his silence and my self-absorption, we wasted years and years of potential closeness. If my H were more direct and expressive, would the situation have been different? Would have I been able to "hear" and respond? I'll never know.
But...I am not looking back. Sometimes you get second chances in life and slowly we are making our way back to each other. We are overcoming our communication and personality issues with heavy doses of respect, commitment and effort, and I hope we can stay on course.
