I can only speculate, as those are not my shoes. I've found it difficult to discuss deep feelings regardless of what side of the issue they fall on, especially on subjects that have traditionally been taboo between us. The write, exchange, discuss format WWME teaches makes it quite a bit easier to force the discussion, but even then I often have to force myself not to filter what I present as my feelings. I think if I were the LD, I would still be OK with disclosing this, but likely only after a certain level of trust was reached.
I think it isn't so much subject matter as it is a percieved difference between your internal concept of self and what you try to project externally is. Self confidence plays a big role here: you are naturally more prone to discuss things where you feel confident, and that confidence, I think comes from a closer match between your internal and external self. There is also the issue of trying to not hurt or upset your spouse, which it shouldn't since it is feelings...but until you have built a mutual trust there are things you are just plain scared to disclose. I can't help but to think that perhaps I've unwittingly been critical or judgemental when discussing W's feelings, and doing that can shut that communication down pretty quickly. See, it isn't just communicating your feeling, it is also learning to listen to what your partner is saying without acting on what is being shared. Being a thinker, I tend to analyze (she does too), which can be a big source of trouble.
OK, so I rambled a bit, but hopefully there is a gem in there that you can use.
