Penn---If I were the hugging type I would give you one! This is a continuous process...can I suggest to you that you re-read Divorce Remedy? You fought for your M and you have it...What were you doing before you dropped the D that made you happy...remember there is only one person in this world that can truly make you happy and it isn't your H...

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It was just more of the same.



How could you have avoided more of the same behavior?

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Therefore, no effort will be put forth to change.



OK, now this one really got me...how long have you been doing this?? You know that you can't change your H, you can only change you. This is going to take lots and lots of time...even though you have made lots and lots of positive steps in you R you still need to have patience...tons of patience!


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I miss going out and having a life



WHY??? Why are you not having a life?? That is what made you happy...you having a life is part of what drew him back to you. There is no reason you can't keep doing what you were doing, (with the exception of the BF). Tell us what you are going to do for you this weekend...

It is natural that you miss your XBF, he was a big part of your life, you didn't have all the negativity in your R with him and he seemed to have filled some needs that H isn't able to do so at this point.

Bust out your books and read it again, spend some more time on this BB. Go have your nails done or a facial or buy yourself a new outfit or have a triple scoop ice cream cone or go for a run or a walk or to the library or to a concert or out dancing....whatever it is that you enjoy doing....make yourself smile!

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