Hi Penn---I'm so glad for your update and that things seem to be going well.

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Instead of what used to happen (defensiveness, screaming and yelling) we were able to get angry with each other and not have it escalate


I think if you remember to keep DBing you will have a very successful marriage, it is when we slide into old habits that things go down hill!

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There is the issue of ML. We both have HD's, but when I am tired, I am tired....I loose the "mood" so to speak. So, it's a bit of an issue. I get up early every morning for work. By the time the kids are in bed and SLEEPING at night, I am ready for bed. Anyone else ever have this issue? I don't know what to do about it.



YES! This was a big part of our issue pre-bomb, except I'm pretty LD. The only way to solve it is to just DO IT!
I know you're tired, sometimes on the weekend we put the kids in bed for "quiet time" because mommy and daddy are going to take a "nap." Get creative on this one, in general men place a whole lot more emphasis on sex than women...I would be happy with lots of snuggling but I don't get that. Order take out or fast food once a week, skip the bath and put the kids to bed a bit early, get in the mood...take a shower, freshen up and a little foreplay usually wakes me up!

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