Penn---Yeah a list of what you want need from your H!
Quote: 1) Building up trust again- I need him to be honest and forthcoming with me. Somethings can't be proven, I will just have to take him at his word (this will take time) but if I don't believe him, instead of getting upset, show me instead of trying to convince me and understand that this will just take some time. 2) Spending time with me- Instead of cleaning the garage, or whatever the project be- take time to sit and talk with me, cuddle with me and watch a movie....anything. 3) Listen to me when I talk and tell me if he doesn't understand me. Understanding me is huge. 4) Talk to me. About anything. How your day went, etc. 5) Notes. He always used to leave me little I love you notes around the house, or buy me cards, things like that showed me he was thinking of me.
Be careful with number 2--you may find yourself upset that he doesn't "help" or "do" enough around the house. Maybe you can do projects together...not that anyone would rather clean the garage the watch a movie and cuddle.
You have probably already had your talk but if not read this link:
