PG, Bunch of stuff. First sage counsel from geneva especially the retrouville. My W refused. I wish you luck geneva. My comment your H needs help comes from what I read and my own situation. I needed help.You get help from people like geneva but what about your H? What's he doing to better undersatnd you? My W isn't reading anything. She's stopped going to counselors. She's fine everyone else is wrong don't confuse me with new data. Where's your H in this regard? Just input, Just input. Remember: "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." Confucius