Hey, we were cross posting so I wanted to respond to one thing.
Quote: I had told him that I thought if he respected my feelings he would have deleted it.
One of the hardest things for me to learn is that everyone doesn't think the same and it is not reasonable to expect others to share our viewpoint on things. One of the greatest gifts you can give to your marriage is to stop the 'if he loved me would xxxx' or 'if he respected me he would xxx.' thinking. Get rid of all it, it's junk! Every single human being was raised with their own values and understanding of the world around them and that's what makes us different. Your thinking should be more in line with 'Because I know my H wouldn't hurt me, he must not realize xxxx bothers me so I will tell him'.
