As far as how the divorce affected us reconnecting, I can't say that it did. We started reconciling because we missed eachother, and because our feelings for one another resurfaced. More importantly, we were able to reconnect because we were both ready. We tried briefly once before, it only lasted two days, and it didn't work. I realize now that neither one of us were ready enough for it to happen. The news of the divorce not being final happened after we were back together. So, now it was affecting us because I hadn't made a decision. It made him question my commitment to him and my willingness to do what it takes to make this work.
Sorry, I know that probably doesn't really answer your question. If it doesn't, let me know and I can try and answer anything specific I didn't mention.
