Thanks for the replies. I did answer my question. I know I want to work on this marriage. I love my H. So, I think I should postpone the divorce. Marriage is about love, not money or material things.
As for Friday....I am thinking that maybe we should stay in I came up with a little plan. I am going to get him a nice anniversary card, and in it is going to be a copy of the letter that I am writing to the attorney to postpone the finalization of the divorce. He has been wanting to put his wedding band back on, but hasn't because he didn't want me to feel like I had to if I didn't want to. I think I am going to have the rings cleaned up, and when I give him the card with the letter in it, I will present him with his ring and ask him to stay married to me. Ofcourse, I will have the dim lights, the romantic music and our favorite wine.
Geneva- Thanks for asking how I am doing. I am actually doing pretty good. I had a rough day today (like everyone else, I have family issues going on as well as all this) I was upset and crying earlier. I told H I was going to take a bath and he told me to go sit and relax a bit first. So, I did. About 10 minutes later, he came out and told me I could go take my bath. He had gotten a bubble bath ready for me, lit up the bathroom with my favorite scented candles, and put on the soft music. He also poured me a glass of wine and set it on the side of the tub for me. It was so sweet. H hasn't done something like this for me in years. This was the H that I fell in love with. THIS is the man I married. It's been slow coming, but we are getting back to ourselves again and it feels good. As I sat there in the tub, I couldn't help but think of the sweet things like that he used to do for me, and I realized I never actually appreciated him or any of it. Wow...had that changed now. So, more positives for me today!!!! How are you doing? Do you have a thread? I tried looking for one, but couldn't find it. If you could point me to your where you post, I would love to be able to try and offer you advice on your situation.
Unsure- I am dropping by your thread. I hope you are hanging in there and things are ok.
I came up with a little plan. I am going to get him a nice anniversary card, and in it is going to be a copy of the letter that I am writing to the attorney to postpone the finalization of the divorce. He has been wanting to put his wedding band back on, but hasn't because he didn't want me to feel like I had to if I didn't want to. I think I am going to have the rings cleaned up, and when I give him the card with the letter in it, I will present him with his ring and ask him to stay married to me. Ofcourse, I will have the dim lights, the romantic music and our favorite wine. 
