Hi Tag.....thanks. I will chalk it up to a stupid statement. I am sure I am not immune to making stupid statements myself.
I read up on your sitch and it sounds really tough. Detachment isn't easy, distance or no distance. It is also something that has to be done for YOU and no one else. And you're right, your W may not talk a lot anymore, but she is talking. Look at that......finding your own positives!
Things seem to still be going good. We talked the other night about the D issue. He still stands his ground on not wanting it. I told him that the fact that we both still care for other people, to me, is a reason why we should go through with the D. I asked him when people get married, aren't they usually 100% for eachother....with no other feelings towards anyone? Isn't that what marriage is about? He basically said that he knows what he did was wrong, he knows I didn't deserve it. He should have stayed here and tried to work things out with me instead of jumping into a R and giving that all he had. That he loves me, and I seem to be scared that he is going to up and leave again. Well, seeing as how it happened once, I told him I would be naive to think it couldn't happen again. He told me this feels right to him, he knows where he belongs....and that we are together, we should be together..and we should be married. Somehow, that conversation didn't do much for swaying me. I am still just as undecided now as I was then. I have a deadline on the postponement and it's coming up in the next few weeks.
Sometimes I think I am making a bigger deal out of this then it has to be. It's a simple as staying married or not. I mean, isn't that what most of us are here for???? To save our marriages from ending in D?? Then I wonder what the heck is wrong with me??? LOL.........
Ok, just had to vent that.
Tag- I hope you had a safe trip home. Thanks for your insight on my situation. I have read your sitch and I am trying to find the right words to post what I want to say.
