There's not always a right/wrong good/bad way of doing things, especially at this point in piecing. Sometimes, you just gotta stick your neck out there and try something. "Experiment, and monitor the results".
Remember, though, that you're much farther along in knowing what it takes to help make a relationship work than your W is. There are going to be a lot of times when you want things to move farther and faster, but you might sometimes need to wait in patience while she catches up with you a bit.
Use these times to relax a bit, and do some things for yourself. Sometimes our impatience and frustrations can be a sign that we're working just a bit too hard, and need a break. This also gives our partner some time to do a little more work on their end.
Talking about "intimacy" issues while things are still a bit raw can be very difficult, let alone under the best of circumstances. I wish there was something that I could tell you to "fast-track" getting there, but I'm not sure there is a way. Most of the time, it seems like it takes more work on building a stronger foundation in other areas first.
Hang in there, buddy, you really are doing fine! Yes, listen, listen, listen, and remember the "24 hour rule"!
JJ
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