Frank - just a little perspective here: even in my case, where H and I reconciled quickly and he was truly remorseful and did (almost) everything right, it still took about a year before the words "I want a divorce" would quit popping into my head at random moments.
It's hard and it's scary because you feel so vulnerable, and must be more so for you because she's not meeting your needs for reassurance. Just trying to offer that some of this is normal at this stage.
Have you read The Five Love Languages by Chapman? Would she read it with you? Or maybe watch Michelle's KLA tapes?
