The weekend went pretty good. I got home on friday and my wife met me at the door and had planned a romantic dinner for the two of us. She had sent the kids to my mothers, so we were alone. Then after dinner we went and saw the movie "Sideways". There were a couple of moments during the movie when some comments were made about infidelity or something like that, and she reached out and took my hand and gave it an extra squeeze. The evening went fabulous, she was thoughtful, attentive and outgoing. Couldn't have asked for more.
Saturday was really busy with kids stuff and my wife needed to work, so I took the kids in the afternoon and ran some errands. Later that night we watched a family movie together and called it a night.
Morning came and right away my wife wasn't even out of the bed, and was complaining about hating sundays. Sundays are always difficult days for me, due to the fact that my wife no longer practices our faith, and I get depressed during church (too many happy couples). She commented how we seem to fight on sundays, and I always act weird. (Since I came home, we have never fought, but we do get into deep R talks on sundays) I told her that I felt the same and reminded her that I have already explained why, and that I am sorry that it bothered her, and that I didn't like feeling that way either. I went on to try and be positive and not be "weird". The day was good, no tense moments and nothing to feel bad about.
Yesterday I got home early (didn't work out-class ran late) and went grocery shopping by myself for the family. Later asked W for a backrub (backache from all the grocery bags) and she agreed. Things went well from there. Wow, the past couple of day's have been great!
SAGE: Thanks so much for the advice Sage. As always right on track. Way too much "internal relationship temperature taking" on my part, and then being bummed that the "turkey" wasn't cooking as fast as I thought it should.
Others have pointed out that I have a tendency to not recognize the positives that are happening. So I spent the weekend trying to do just that and boy by all apprearances, that is the way to go. So I have a goal, be positive and let the turkey cook. It will take as long as it takes.
W and I try to do things together, but I see we (I) need to do them with a better PMA. Being creative and trying new things could help as well.
Thanks a bunch and I will keep posting to let you know what is happening.
