I do feel I am observant. If there are 10 things in her life she would like done I get 6 of them without her saying a word. We are VERY busy people. We get stressed. Sometimes she snaps about one of the four things I DIDN'T get done and that's when I get angry (something I'm working on - better communication, less anger)
On the physical touch issue... yes, I give her positive feedback. I just have to be careful because too much positive feedback can sound like MORE MORE MORE - she says that I'm never satisfied and she cannot do enough to make me happy (her excuse for not trying). So, I try to just say "that feels nice" one time and leave it at that. If she only rubs my back for 10 seconds I just leave it at that... I don't say "could you please rub it some MORE"
