Sometimes I think that even when I can deal with the lack of intimacy, I cannot deal with her not trying. It would be a completely different relationship if she said to me "I know that I have LD and I don't want to be like that... I want to work on this together..."
Instead, a lot of time I get the comment that this is "your problem, I am fine with sex once a month...get over it"
If things do not change I can't imagine what would keep me in the house in 10 years when the kids are gone...
The irony of that is that she says the most jaw dropping things sometimes... once when I didn't exercise she said "you better keep yourself in shape, I plan on having a sex life in my later years..." - my two thoughts on this are (1) why wait until we are 65 to have a sex life? and (2) if we are still having sex only once a month I don't see it as a major strain...
It makes me think of the main thing that drives me crazy about my W. She is a hypocrite. She expects me to stay happily married to her even though she isn't in the mood to be intimate, yet she told me that when the kids are gone she wants to travel, see the world, blah blah blah and if I'm not physically fit enough to join her she will find someone else... she isn't going to spend her silver years in a rocking chair watching TV...
