What the hell am I doing????

[Zoo]

Really Sad- Yes, kevin's W is on the boards. She is also making the same mistakes that we all have made when we first come here...mistakes that Kevin himself made/makes time and time again. Neither one of them are saints by any means (who here could ever claim that?)and they have a lot of work ahead of them. The things is...are both WILLING to work as hard as the other or is this just going to be an instance of going through the motions and SAYING "I tried my damndest" without actually DOING it?

Is Kevin waiting for any mistakes so he can tell OW he "tried" without actually doing so?

Is Kevin's W waiting for Kevin to slide back into the "same-old" person so she has an excuse to return to her "cruising" online and treating him like crap?

I know from working with Kevin the last time he was here that he tends to only go half-way with things. If it is too hard or not what he WANTS to do...it just isn't going to happen. I fear we are looking at the same thing now. Kevin is enamored of the OW...I expect even MORESO since she told him she wanted to back-off. It gives the OW a modicum of respect..."Wow!...Here is a woman who cares about me enough that she will back off so i can work on my doomed M...how could i not be better off with someone like that?" Of course, the odds are good that he won't be better off. That "feel-good" feeling is new and fresh but it will wear off eventually...and she could be 10 times worse than his W. All OW will "sacrifice"...it makes them look good! Personally, I hope the OW listens to Kevin's W and runs away as far and as fast as she can. She'll respect herself more and be better off for it in the long run. If she pops back into the messy sitch it is only going to hurt EVERYONE concerned.

The big question is...will Kevin leave her alone and out of it and focus on what he has instead of worrying about what he doesn't have?

Regards,
Zoo