Kevin - if she is on the boards she should also be DBing and not calling the OW, not begging, not any of that crap that we tried not to be or do when we are DBing. You both need to step up and be mature and responsible about making this work or it won't work. Do you think she's read DR? Have you? (I didn't go back and read your original posts). But I agree with what someone said - I'd give anything to have the opportunity to try with my h right now - he has moved out. You will need to DB and she needs to as well. A MC could help if you find one that is solution focused and not fault-finding. How about giving that a try - sometimes it is just how you say something that can make or break an intimate moment and learning how to do that would be good for both of you.
