kevin, I do agree with other posters and getting involved with OP is not right...not at this time. That being said however, I still say if you want to work on the M, look for long-lasting changes in W. You have been through it all, and I can only imagine your pain. Regardless of what anyone else says, you have certainly paid your dues and you do what you feel is right for you and your son. No two sitches are alike...and no two people have the same boundries as to what they will allow themselve to go through with their spouse. Only you know...but keep away from OW for now...I don't think it will do anybody any good. Your sitch is complicated...tread carefully. But you will be happy one day, regardless what your decision is.
