Thanks for the info. My W responds well to ILUs about half of the time so I think that I will stop them for a while. During our relationship she was always the one that said ILU first and I guess my responses could have been viewed as somewhat cold to her for most of our relationship.
She has also made the comment that are roles are reversed now - before she left whe was the one doing everything to keep the emotional side of our marriage together. She also said that she knows how hard it is to be in my shoes now because she has been there.
Things that are good in our relationship now:
1. We have a very nice house and she spends alot of time working on painting and decorating it. 2. We do not have any money problems. I have a professional job and make most of our income. 3. We are very good friends and enjoy doing nothing together as long as we do not talk about our M. 4. We do not have children but have a dog that she really loves - I had the dog before we met. 5. Her family really likes me and my family really likes her.
I have backed off the affection somewhat over the last few days. Still give a hug and kiss before I leave and after I get home from work and at bedtime - I get the feeling that she is expecting it. I have some trouble not snuggling with her in the mornings probably because I am still somewhat asleep. Maybe I should make more of an effort to stop this?
Anyway I really appreciate all the advice and I know that the biggest thing I need to do right now is be patient.
