I am sticking to the changes that I made when she left. 1. I quit drinking and saw a C for what the C termed minor depression. 2. I don't get mad at her and am positive, help around the house and show affection 3. Started lifting weights again
I have been very affectionate with her since her return because she said that was one of the reasons she left in the first place but I am not sure if that is the right thing to do now? It is hard because all I want to do is help her becasue I know she is hurting. I tend to look at it like I got us into this mess and I need to be the one to get us out. If I stop being affectionate then I think she will view it as I have given up or things are going back to how they were before? Maybe I should just back off some?
She says that she is not angry with me anymore but when we discuss things she gets defensive at times. She is also more of a day to day person where I tend to look more at the big picture and the future.
I guess my new goals should be:
1. No R talks unless she wants to 2. Hold off on the DVD's until she is ready 3. Always be happy and upbeat around her - confident in myself and our M
