I cant comment enough on how under control I think you have things. You are really doing well, despite the mixed signals H gives. You know that you have to do what you have to do for yourself. I wish that I could have my H as a friend if D is in my future. But I dont think I can. Too many hurt feelings and continued lies. He still lies to me everyday and when I thought about it today, friends dont lie to each other so we cant be friends. Your spouse isnt supposed to lie to you either. I am such an honest person, that it is hard for me to digest all of this. But I dont know what my future holds with H, I still have to remain in contact with him because we have a daughter, but I fear that the constant contact with him will stop me from moving on. But you sound like you have thought this through and you know that if D is happening, you cant continue physical R with him if he has OW in his life. I am proud of the progress you made as I have followed your sitch and you should be proud of yourself. Give yourself a well deserved pat on the back. Sun
