I haven't posted on your thread (or anyone's) for a while, but I'm thinking you should change your screen name to ResilientNJ.
You're really doing well, and have achieved significant detachment. For this you should be very proud!!! You've also posted 4x as many posts as I have, in about 1/2 the time. You're good, girl!!!
I think your efforts to push the friendship aspect of your R is the right approach. Again, it's another thing you can control, which is the path to being healthy and happy.
Hang in there, Crushed / Resilient...you're doing great!!!
