Believe it or not, you seem to be in areally good place right now. You are right, you have to DB for you and no one else. That may be part of my problem I am still focusing on H....I know that for me right now I need H around so maybe my DBing is benefiting me...Enough about me. From your posts, you seem to have a good handle on everything that is going on, and there is nothing wrong with remaining friends after D. SOme people cant do that, but it is actually the mature way to handle it. You have a history that shouldnt be tainted by a messy divorce. I know that I cant tell a story without saying H's name, why because that is who I have spent the last 14 yrs of my life with...The same goes for you and for your H. Dont think that your name is not brought up in convos with his friends when he is recalling a situation. I am happy that you are doing so well...I remember your earlier posts and you have come so far and you should be proud of yourself. Friendship is the core of a marriage, so if you can be friends through all of this that is a HUGE positive.
