I like you am acknowledging my part in the breakdown of the marriage and you are right, his actions do not justify because you did not do something. It is all about choices. It sad that some choices can be so devastating and affect more than just one person.
I am glad that you are still so positive during all of this, I wish I was in a positive place right now as well. My sitch seems to be taking a turn for the worse. But I am here on the board trying to muster up the positive attitude I need to continue on. Just like you. My H like yours is still is at home but is now talking of leaving and it is very upsetting. How do you manage in the house with your H knowing that a D is in the works? I dont think I could handle that. There has been no talk of D on my end, just that my H is not happy and that he thinks he should leave. I'm hoping he wont, but part of me thinks that he really needs to leave to see what he will be missing. IN any event, I am glad that you are coping and working on you. We all have our faults and I am glad that you see that even tho you had faults in your marriage that it was not entirely your fault.
