Yes, I read it and had seen it before, it is awesome isn't it?
Cal has had a good effect on you.
I think it is cool that two years after she posted her threads are still helping people.
You can't make another person do or not do anything. So he really shouldn't view it as his fault that you didn't show love and affection.
When a relationship fails both people are at fault. It is the interaction dynamics that you both get into and possibly choose to continue but one of you can't really make the other act a certain way.
He had some choices to make as well and to seek another R isn't the way to deal with R problems in the marriage. It just totally clouds and complicates the issues at hand.
I speak from experience on both sides of this coin so I hope that helps you some.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
