I think he knows by now that you want him in your life Crushed. A divorce would be a pretty big expensive test. Although some spouses are not above that kind of behavior, and some actually feel a D is needed to kill the "old" relationship. I know I keep hearing you saying you are ready for this and looking forward to a new life, but I also know you are sad this is going this way, and like me, if your H came to you and said this was a huge mistake, and would go to counseling, you'd try again. Having been through this once before, i can't say it easier the second time. Maybe cause its from the same person, and I thought it would be forever. I read in Dear Abby the other day about a couple who divorced twice, and were about to be married a third time.So, you never know. Do you think you'll be able to maintain the friendship? Do you plan on seeing each other often? What happens when you meet someone else(you will you know, you are a nice person, and once this is done, with your personality you will meet someone!) One of the things I was told recently was that if I were the new person in H's life would I want his x-wife calling or seeing him regularly? We don't have kids, so there is no reason to, other than we have almost 30 years together. Some people I know who are divorced still love each other but simply could not be together 24/7. I don't think my H is gonna keep in touch after th D this time. He seems to be getting better at distancing all the time. And I am sure OW will make sure to do her part in the "no contact zone". Bottom line is, divorce just means you are not married anymore. It doesn't mean you can't be friends, lovers, or even remarried to each other at some point in time. He isn't gone yet, and if you still wanna try -do it. H never called tonight, but I was really hopin he would. Wonder if he and OW kissed and made up....
