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the whole point is to get them wondering what you're up to and to start to pursue you. If you burn up the keypad trying to respond, he'll have no worry about your still being there as plan B. I know it's hard not seeing/hearing from them




Yes, very. While I'm dark, my WAW is proceeding along with her new relationship, entrenching herself in it, I'd imagine, as people do when they're in relationships. I'm not entirely convinced that she's thinking about me nowadays. She used to. Some months past she told me she thought about me all the time, but that was back when I was emailing her sentiments, hand made cards on occasion. Though it prompted tears of guilt most probably on her part, it may have helped me stay on her mind. So what to do? Michelle does mention in DR that it's helpful that the WAS experience feelings of guilt, grief, remorse, yet if I'm continually making her feel guilty, that's not good either. She's got to feel guilty by herself. But we forgave each other in order to pave the way for a friendship, and if she feels forgiven, why would she feel guilty?

She recently wrote me that my wishing to maintain a friendship with her meant a lot to her. So, wouldn't her desire to maintain a friendship with me prompt her to contact me more often if I'm dark? Or is the ball in my court, when it should be in hers?

I'm getting very confused today.