I decided to turn off the lights and settle for bed probably about 10 minutes before H came home. He took the dog out (I did too but he is always up for a walk) and then I heard him in the kitchen (eating?) and then in the bathroom. He came upstairs and tried to be as quiet as he could - I pretended to be asleep. Once he finally got in bed I lifted the head and said "hello". I asked about the movie and he was telling me his opinion (not that good but still enjoyed it). He asked me about my day, I said it was good and that I had a FRIEND over to cook lunch/dinner for me. He said - I noticed, it was a GUY friend right? I must admit that this question took me by surprise and I said so. I asked him why he thought it was a guy- he said that the things were moved/rearranged so he knew someone was over and he said that the toilet seat was up and there was some "sprinkling". He said that he wanted to know if he was as good of the detective as he thought he was. He said he didn't care but he was just asking and he did not understand why I was so standoffish with my asnwer.
I did not specify if it was a man or a woman - I said FRIEND. I did not specify after he asked me if it was a GUY friend - I really see no reason for him to know one way or the other. I just said that it upsets me that he is implying I was disrespectful (inviting a guy over to the house when H is away seems disrespectuf to me regardless of the sitch).
So, this morning when I woke up after he was already up he did not say a word- I did not either. Finally once I got downstairs after getting dressed I said "goodmorning" to him and acted "as if". He did not go back to last night's conversation. So far no attempt to communicate with me.
Funny thing is that I would normally be upsets and scared that he would interpret last evening as me cheating on him and possible way of hurting the chance for fixing the R. This time- no effect on me. I must be a queen of detachment!
